I was going to write this two days ago, but forgot. For training at my job, (preschool teacher, all women staff) we had an HR rep (a male) from the company that handles our payroll and such come speak to us.
Things he said during his lecture that offended me:
1. During a “visualization” exercise where we were told to visualize “an individual going into a Tom Thumb and holding it up, and then the police arrive” he said most of us would visualize the thief as a man. Wearing a hoodie. I almost expected him to say African American. EXCUSE ME????? No. Just no.
2. He asked us if we pictured the police officers as male or female. Everyone, except me, said male. And he said this is usually the case because of HOW WE’RE WIRED. I was seething in my seat. I’m pretty sure steam came out of my ears. He then added “not that female police officers aren’t capable, because they are” as an afterthought. NOOOOOO OLD MAN.
3. Somehow he broached the topic of exercise. And made the assumption that all the women in the room did yoga or Pilates or “if you have weights you’re probably using 1lb.” It was then, before I knew what was happening, that a very loud “NOPE” escaped my lips. He looked at me and laughed LAUGHED and said “Oh, you don’t use any weights, huh?” And I only said “Try heavier. A lot heavier.” When in my mind I was screaming “FUCK YOU OLD MAN FOR YOUR ASSUMPTIONS IM ABOUT 90% SURE I COULD DEADLIFT YOUR FEEBLE OLD MAN BODY.”